It is not only a physical loss but a piece of your heart is missing. And believe me, it’s not just about “looks” on a surface level—the way you feel about your looks is a key signifier of the way you think about yourself. The people on TV and in magazines aren't perfect in real life -- the images you see are manipulated and you shouldn't judge your own beauty by those standards! Especially after children. Stop hiding, take a look and see what's coming. I think plasticked faces look super odd though and I don't think it helps anyone. Each stage of your journey will be completely different, and as you wander through your grief, emotions will come and go. If you settle into your new skin you'll probably find you start to look better in your own eyes and you'll naturally come across better to others. Accepting your mortality. After all, what does 50 really look like today? I know because I loss my son in November after a 5 1/2 year battle with StageIV colon cancer. I first want to say that I am so sorry for your loss. When your body changes after children, it’s … It’s been nearly 11 years since my father died (I was 18 when it happened), so I think I can safely say I’ve been through it all; the shock, the sadness, the anger, the guilt, and, eventually, the acceptance. The grieving process. Other than that if you're wealthy you could go for the surgery option. Youth is a distant memory, middle age is long gone; you’re a senior citizen and you look like one. Get a shorter haircut before you start treatment — it will make your hair look thicker and may help hair loss seem less noticeable to others later on. No “quick-fix” solution is going to make … It's going to happen. Death is an unavoidable part of the cycle of life, yet many of us do everything we can to avoid accepting our mortality. You may even want to consider a close crop. Whatever the cause of your grief, though, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain that, in time, can ease your sadness and help you come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and eventually move on with your life. Coming to Terms with Aging. That's right! But coming to terms with the inevitability of death can help teach us to live more fully in the here and now. It took a conscious, concerted effort to feel more confident about my looks. When he passed, it was not peaceful because he was in excruciating pain. There is a moment, and it happens to all aging women, where you understand that you've lost the race. It surely isn't the picture we have of our mothers or grandmothers. 4 Tips to Help You Come to Terms with Aging ... Because if you are 40 then it’s not possible you look 20! From our perspective, 50, 60 and older can look great if you take off your mask and let your face grow into becoming who you are. 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